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The Moment That Things Changed

Updated: Mar 24, 2023




These words have haunted me for far too long. We all have hateful words that have followed us throughout our lives. Maybe yours are similar to mine, maybe they are completely different. Regardless of what the words are, we have all been hurt by being defined by something in our lives.

Aren’t you tired?

Tired of feeling like you aren’t worth it? Tired of judging yourself and feeling judged by others?

I’ve talked about the struggles with my weight before and that is not what this blog post is about. This blog post is about the moment that things changed for me. The moment that I decided to shut out these negative descriptors. Mean people say mean things. That doesn’t mean that those things define you.

You define You.

I’ve recently lost 40 pounds and am currently in my best physical health since college. I am still walking the path to continue a healthy lifestyle for good. Regardless! Even though I looked great, I still found myself with judging eyes on when I looked in the mirror.

I’ve been bullied. I’ve been “complimented” in ways that hurt me. I’ve been laughed at. I’ve definitely been judged. And, even though some of those moments have been the most painful in my life, none of that matters.

Because, I define who I am.

That realization was the key for me.

There will always be people who will try to bring you down, ESPECIALLY when you are on the rise. But, don’t join them in believing these things are true.

Your choices and your lifestyle are what defines you. It’s okay to have a past and it’s okay to make a bad decision. It’s what you do after, that matters. You’re allowed to make mistakes in life. What would life be without a few mistakes here and there?

We learn from those mistakes and become better versions of ourselves. So, why do we continue to pass judgement on ourselves?

It’s as simple as this. It’s because you will always be your greatest critic. We judge ourselves much more than others do. And, it’s time we stop that NOW!

For me, I had to rewrite the thoughts in my head. Instead of seeing how much work needed to be done still with my body, I started looking at the positive changes I was seeing.

How did I get to this new mindset?

For my specific problems, it was progress pictures and self-love/compassion. It was really jaw dropping to see the changes in my body from when I started my fitness journey. It’s so easy to get down on yourself, but pictures do not lie. I stopped using the scale as judgment and started to focus more on how I felt.

I was no longer heavy breathing when walking up a flight of stairs. I could walk Ginger (my cute, adorable Pomeranian) much further comfortably. My old clothes were fitting again. Overall, I just felt better.

Sure, I can still look in the mirror and find something to judge. But, why do that?! What good does that do for me?

It is time to FLIP THE SCRIPT.

Give yourself some credit for how hard you work. Maybe you still have a lot of work to do to change your mindset and start loving yourself.

And, guess what? That is okay!

No matter where you are at on your journey to a better you, Keep Going.

Only YOU can change you. Only YOU define you.

YOU are the key to your success in life.

So, stop making it harder for yourself and start showing yourself a bit of compassion.

Because, guess what?

You are worth it.

Until Next Time,



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